Why you shouldn’t compare yourself to others

I HATE the word should and I just used it in the title of this article. I very rarely use this word, but I felt that in this case, it was fitting. I truly believe that you shouldn’t compare yourself to others. I feel so strongly about this because I have done this very thing…

Cancer Part II

As I’m sitting in the hospital room—pretending to watch the television out of a desire to appear like I know what to do there—I get a momentary flash of sadness. That’s how it happens, I realize—in flashes. There are momentary feelings of sadness and fear, and then guilt for those feelings because—I’m not the one…

I am Whole

Do more. DO MORE. More this More that More this More that More this More that. Not enough.   YOU. YOU’RE NOT ENOUGH. Not smart enough Not good enough. Not pretty enough. Not nice enough. Not this enough, Not that enough.   Missing something. NOT WHOLE. YOU– YOU’RE NOT WHOLE.   Fill the whole with…

Gratitude: The Lovechild of Pain

We live in a society where gratitude is trendy. It’s good to be grateful. It’s a good thing. We are taught: I express gratitude, I, in some way, become happier. It’s a foolproof formula, right?   Perhaps. Or perhaps, gratitude isn’t always our first reaction. Perhaps, we, as a society, have focused too much on…

10 Things to Know about Pain

Pain wants to be recognized. If it isn’t, it will beckon for your attention until it is. Pain doesn’t understand reason or practicality. It needs recognition. 25 years of pushing down pain taught me this. I covered pain up with anything I could find. I escaped it all costs. I couldn’t bear to sit with…

10 Ways to Invite Magic into your life

Magic occurs for us mortals, I assure you. Magic isn’t only in Harry Potter movies, Disney theme parks, and on Cirque de Soleil stages. Magic is very real. Magic here on earth is much more beautiful than the magic you see in movies and on stages, too. It is real, and that alone makes it…

10 Ways Cats are Best Friends

10 Ways Cats are the Best Friends They are the ultimate Zen Masters. My cats are enlightened. Yes, you read that correctly. Enlightened. They meditate for hours daily. HOURS! They constantly inspire me. I’ve never seen anything so peaceful then when my cats are taking their daytime naps. They are content just about anywhere including…